Trixie

Joan and Trixie

Trixie's Mom I'd like to tell you about my fifteen year old Jack Russell Terrier, Trixie. Did you hear that noise? That was the sound of the collective groan of every one of my friends and family. I don't blame them for being exasperated, I do talk about Trixie a lot. When we first adopted her as a six week old puppy, my co-workers made secret wagers as to how long it would take each morning before I mentioned her name. Those that bet "a minute or less" became exceedingly wealthy and were able to retire early! In truth, when I started sifting through my mental "Trixie file" today, I had a bit of an epiphany. My dog hasn't really done anything "above and beyond." She's never rescued a kid from a well or dragged anyone from a burning building. On the other hand, she's not of the "Fun Bad Dog" variety either. Our furniture was never chewed to pieces and my shoes all remain intact and slobber-free. But here's what I DID realize: Several years back, when my husband and I were living in Orlando, Florida, I decided I wanted to volunteer visiting nursing homes. I have a deep affection for little old ladies and I wanted to help out. So, I applied with a local organization, passed the background check and was assigned to a lovely woman named Mildred at Guardian Care Nursing Home. Mildred was in the late stages of dementia, and she kind of "came and went" mentally during our visits together. She never seemed overly excited to see me, and certainly never remembered me from one visit to the next. I tried everything to engage her in conversation. She didn't remember much, she said, and apparently didn't feel very comfortable sharing stories about herself with a complete stranger. Our visits deteriorated into long, boring chats about her wardrobe ("Are those new slippers? Nice!!") I felt like a supreme failure. Then I read an article about our local Humane Society. They were starting a "Pet Therapy" program where volunteers and their pets would visit area nursing homes every Saturday. I lowered the paper and looked at Trixie. "Ready?" I asked her. She gave me one of her audible, scale-descending sighs. We were off! Walking into that nursing home with Trixie was like tossing a ball of pure sunshine into the room! Residents that initially sat hunched-over in wheelchairs, staring blankly at the wall, now reached-out to pat Trixie's head and scratch her chin. They'd smile and break into long, detailed stories about the pet dog they used to have. One woman kept a box of Milkbones in her nightstand drawer, she wanted to have treats on-hand when Trixie arrived. Trixie's small stature and high energy made her an immediate hit with all children. NONE of them feared her. When we moved into our first home, we soon learned we had become "That Couple" on the block, the one with no kids! I was worried none of the parents would allow their children to trick-or-treat at our house. So one day I set up the sprinkler in the front yard, Trixie's second favorite thing ever (her first is "chasing" a flushed toilet. Did I mention she's REALLY weird?!). Within minutes, there was an enormous crowd of children lined-up on our driveway, all laughing and pointing at our silly dog in full sprint, running back and forth, through the tall fan of water. One five year old looked at me and stated incredulously, "Your dog is CRAZY!!" They all showed up on Halloween. Each of them cheerfully accepted their Three Musketeers Bars, patted Trixie on the head, and told her they really liked her pumpkin costume. The same was true of our nieces and nephews through the years. My husband and I lived hundreds of miles from our siblings and we saw their children only once a year, if we were lucky. They were always terribly shy when they first arrived, hands in mouths and faces pressed against their mothers' thighs. Then Trixie would come bounding out of the house to greet them. Squeals of delight immediately followed. Aunt Joan and Uncle Alan's soon became "Trixie's House; Also Occupied By Those Other Two People." We showed them the entirety of Orlando's majesty: Disney, Universal, Gatorland, all of the above. As they were leaving, we'd ask them, "What was your favorite thing you did this week?" Their reply? "Swimming with Trixie in the pool. Oh, and also, when I threw the ball 9,000 times and she brought it back." Sorry Magic Kingdom, you don't stand a chance against my awesome terrier, a body of water, and her ball. One year, my husband's five year old nephew, Harlan, was visiting and refusing to take a bath. How can I put this delicately? The kid STANK!! We'd been at Disney all day in 90 degree weather and Harlan was a dirty, sweaty mess. Still, he resisted. He finally agreed when we said that Trixie could join him in the tub (her third favorite thing in the world). We checked back in the bathroom fifteen minutes later and found water soaking the walls, floors, rugs and light fixtures, along with two faces so filled with pure joy and happiness, it was impossible to be upset! When I worked as an actress and needed my resume pictures re-done, I decided to have a few taken holding Trixie. I thought it would be something different to help my photo stand-out when it was viewed alongside all the others. What I didn't count on, was what would happen when I arrived at the audition in person. I would hand them my headshot, proceed to my mark to begin, and then hear, "Oh, my gosh, is this your dog? What's his name?" So, I spend a few seconds telling them about Trixie, sometimes they'd give me a quick tale about their own dog, and we'd share a nice moment. Then they'd ask me to begin again, and I would, infinitely more relaxed than when I first entered the room. Now in her golden years, Trixie's work continues. When I've got her in the car with me, stopped at a red light, she always stands up on her back paws and scratches at the passenger window, wanting me to roll it down. I love watching as the car next to us slowly notices Trixie panting at them. They usually point, they sometimes wave at her, they ALWAYS smile. I recently purchased a trailer for her that I attach to the back of my bike. We ride together for miles and miles on the wonderful wooded York Heritage trail. I smile every time other bikers pass me, coming from the other direction. I wait for the inevitable surprise and laughter, followed by, "Did you see that? There was a DOG in there!" So, as I was going over all this today, something occurred to me I hadn't thought of the entire fifteen years we've been together: Trixie makes me special. It's true. It's like hanging out with a rock star. All these years, she's allowed me to believe it was HER that was the lucky one to have had my husband and I for "parents." (That's right, we call ourselves Mommy and Daddy with her. Got a problem with that?) Turns out, it's MY life that has been enriched. Just because she was THERE. I grew up as the middle kid of five children, four of us were girls. We were very close in age, our mom cut our hair similarly, and she often dressed us identically. I am being COMPLETELY serious here when I tell you that I had great-aunts approach me at our FREQUENT family gatherings and loudly ask, "So, which one are YOU?" I always hated being referred to as "Laura's sister" or "One of the Donnelly girls." "I'M JOAN," I would scream, "I am individual!!" But shortly after we began our gig at the nursing home, I had a baseball cap made. I wore it every week. It simply read, "Trixie's Mom." All the elderly residents were in agreement, I totally rocked. Thanks for reading!!